Megan Alexandre

Month: October 2018

Stickk – Goal Setting Accountability

Ever set a goal you didnt achieve?  Dont lie.  I’m sure there are equal number of NYE resolutions to years you’ve lived.  We’ve all been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt.  I know I have and I am more than happy to admit it.

We only grow by acknowledging our mistakes/life lessons and growing from them and learning the lessons.  If you’re still adamant you have never failed at any goal you set, please take your hand, put it on your computer mouse, move towards the top right corner of the screen, and ‘x’ out this page.  We are done here.

For those of you living on planet Earth with me, lets move forward.

Did you notice my husband hasn’t actually responded to be my referee? I doubt he even opened the email

My goals are always related to one of the following –

  • Exercise
  • Weight/Weight Loss
  • Financial
  • Work
  • Business

Which is what bring me to the homerun of goal setting accountability – Stickk.com

I recently learned about this app and decided I had to give it a try.  Accountability is key to keeping on track with your goals.  Its almost like, if a tree falls over in the woods and nobody hears it, did it happen?  Or as my father always asked, “Do bears sh*t in the woods?  Have you ever seen one do it?”  (You’d have to have known him to see his humor)

With Stickk you create an account.  Input your goal.  Decide the length of your goal.  And then, le pièce de résistance, you decide how the app is going to hold you accountable.  On your honor?  (So back to the bear in the woods bit) Or financially?  You can set a certain amount that Stickk will take out of your bank account if you dont hit the goal.  It can go to your anti-charity.  AKA, dont hit the goal – donate to your least favorite charity available in their dropdown of options.

You also have the option to request a Referee.  I requested my husband.  If you look closely, you’ll notice he hasn’t responded yet – not for lack of my trying.  Hopefully soon because there is a point to a referee… they’re here to keep you honest.  Get one.  And get one who answers/reads their emails 😉

Both of my starter goals run over a 26 week period.  So, if I miss hitting a goal one week, I owe $20 to my anti-charity.

We know goals have to be SMART – otherwise, they’re pipe dreams.  If I want to lose one pound a week, over the next 26 weeks, I have tImage result for goal settingo eat properly, according to a lifestyle change (more later on that).  I also need to exercise.  I set a goal of (4) days of exercise per week.  If I dont achieve either or both, each week, $40 go to my anti-charity.  

So far I’ve made it a week.  My coach suggested this to me last Monday, and challenged me to download the app and setup 2 goals the same day.

So today, I challenge you to do the same.

  1. download the app
  2. setup 2 goals

Dont wait for the “right” time.  There isnt one.  Dont wait for some “other” sign that its time to get your sh*t together.  Instead of waiting for NYE, or the next full moon, or the next time you’ve made a full rotation around the sun – just do it.  Use me as your not so suttle nudge to just get. it. together.  I mean this with love and kindness – get. it. together.  For you to achieve a goal, your mind has to believe it is moving from a place of pain to a place of pleasure.  (There is science behind this, I swear I’m not making this up) So, if you choose your anti-charity, the pleasure is work towards the goal or the pain of donating to your least favorite charity is the outcome.

I’m not perfect, nor am I pretending to be.  But here is the thing, nobody is.  Maybe I’ll end up donating a few times during the 26 weeks.  Hopefully not.  Because my hatred for this charity far outweighs my desire to skip a day of working out or eat like a garbage disposal.

If you sign up, let me know!  I’d love to hear how Stickk is working

Xo,

Megan

Yoga – does a body good

Image may contain: 1 person, sitting and indoorLet me start out by saying “thank you” to a dear friend, Brandon.  I recently spoke with him as he continues on his path of being a traveling artist, and he asked, “So Morrill, whats the deal with that blog?” I embarrassingly had to admit I hadn’t written anything and never seemed to “find the time.”

Sound familiar?

Recently, over the last month, I’ve started regularly attending yoga classes at a studio near my apartment.  It is a 12 minute walk, if I’m crawling.  I began going for the #1 reason of getting in some exercise and moving my body.  My day job is not an 8 hour a day job (I wish!).  I work from home 3x a week.  On the days I work from home, I’m lucky if I walk around the block.  I know, I know.  Lazy.  Get up.  Do more.  Experts say to move your body once an hour.  What about my cardiovascular health?  I get it.

But something always got in the way.  Not least of which, motivation.  I hate working out, I would tell myself.  I hate sweating, that little voice in my head would chatter.  You already showered today, Megan, do you really want to have to do it again?  You don’t have cute yoga clothes.  You aren’t a ‘yogi’ and have no idea what you’re doing.  The list goes on and on.  You can relate, right?  How many times does the little voice in the back of your head tell you – you ignoramus you really can’t be thinking about this again.

In comes The Yes Studio in Bushwick.  I found it during a random Google search and decided to check it out.  They have a 2 week intro for $20; unlimited classes.  So I signed up.  My first class had me AS NERVOUS as when I went to take the SATs.  Will everyone be skinny and fit? (Yes)  Will everyone be judging my post-baby jiggle? (No) Will I spend all of class thinking everyone is judging me? (Actually, nope) The benefits of this studio could go on and on.

Before I talk about the overall benefits I’ve found in (4) weeks of yoga, let me paint you a picture of me pre-yoga classes.  First, I associated yoga with “zen” and my inner “chi” and pretty much wrote it off as a bunch of bullsh*t.  Literally.  Secondly, I figured there was literally no way on this earth that I would be able to touch my toes, so clearly it’s not for me.  Thirdly, if I want to sweat, which I don’t really want to do, I’ll run.  Why do I need all these Lulu Lemon wearing moms judging me?  (This was even before RJ)  Also, I hate the smell of patchouli.  It reminds me of my university days at the University of Vermont where 98% of the campus had that smell.  And approximately the same percentage of students smelled that way.  Heck no.  To this day, if I smell patchouli, I run, not walk the other way.  It’s possibly the only negative I have to say about UVM.

But I’m here to give a couple benefits, in my humble opinion, from yoga.

  • The sweat is real. This isn’t a cardio workout where you’re running/bicycling/whatever-ing and sweat is dripping off you.  You are doing specific movements, with cues about moving your hips, shoulders down, breathing a specific way, returning to your breath.  And sweat is dripping off you.
  • Mind clearing. From the minute the instructor starts talking my To Do list vanishes.  It requires insane concentration to breathe in & out on their cues.  They time everything.  Certain movements are to be done on the inhale, others on the exhale.  It is virtually impossible for me to think about Richard’s diaper supply, or dinner, or that pivot table I may have screwed up, or our bank account, or our debt and breathe in and out, and follow cues.  I M P O S S I B L E.  If you had a stressful day/week/month/life, take a class.  Suddenly its all put into perspective.  Now I’m not going down the inner chi rabbit hole.  I’m simply stating that by taking an hour out of your life to focus purely on your breath and movement, clarity on certain above mentioned problems finds its way to the forefront.
  • Friend making. I’ve been lucky enough to meet a bunch of really great gals and guys in these classes.  Truth – I’ll talk to a wall if it will answer.  But that’s not the point.  Getting out, talking to people, raising your heartbeat and generally being present are all beneficial.
  • Better sleep. For 4 weeks now, the night of a class, I sleep better than the baby.  Just ask my husband.  That baby can wake up crying anytime between 10 & 6 and the odds are, I won’t hear.  (Have no fear people, I’m also fully aware Adrien will hear)
  • “Me” Time. I don’t care if you’re a woman, man, either, neither, mom, dad, fur-parent.  If you are a human you need “me” time.  A moment (or 60) when the world isn’t pulling at you.  No cell phones.  No work.  No deadlines.  No requirements.  No worries.  No anxiety.  Trust me when I say the apocalypse won’t hit.  Trust me when I say <insert loved one/boss here> won’t die.  Trust me when I say <insert problem> won’t get worse, go away, or change in any way.  Trust me when I say – your mind health, emotional health, physical health will all improve.

 

Now look, all of the above are the benefits of any kind of exercise in a group.  We all know exercise is paramount to success in so many areas of our lives – all areas.  Relationships (romantic & not).  Work.  Family life.  Finances. This is so true and what I kept telling myself when I first started running and what I kept telling myself when I get down on how slow I still am.

I am far from being a ‘yogi’ and even further from becoming a yoga instructor.  But I will go on record that this Jersey girl, who still rocks her acrylic nails and Amazon.com purchased workout clothes loves yoga.  If you live in NYC and want to come with me to a class – send me an email or IG message or fill out the form below.  I’m here and as I’ve said – I’ll talk to a wall, so an actual human coming to a class with me is a huge bonus.

 

Xo,

Megan

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